Last month I was scrolling through Instagram when I discovered the account called The Champagne Diet. Needless to say the name was enough for me to start scrolling through. The consistency of the beautiful photos and the message that went along with them was so empowering and spiritual. I was obsessed. I soon discovered the account belonged to Cara Alwill Leyba, blogger, author and life coach extraordinaire. As I looked more into her career I found that Cara had written several books and the one that immediately caught my eye was Girl Code.
Some of you may not know this about me but I am ALL about female empowerment. I really cannot think of something more beautiful than women supporting other women. I love reading a memoir where they’re talking about the women who have inspired them or the women who helped them out along the way. And sometimes, we just don’t feel all that powerful or boss-like. We feel like everything is against us and we just don’t want to leave our bed. It happens. So for those days, remember these boss quotes and kick that days ass.
I know that I already posted about the books I want to read this summer but it’s barely July and I’ve already read all of those books! I’m so big on reading and it really is an amazing way to meet/connect with people! You can learn so much from someone from their taste in books. So, since my “summer reading list” barely made it to summer, I’ve decided to make this something I do on a monthly basis, my own AFA Reading List!
Sometimes it will be books that I need to read, sometimes I’ll include books I’ve read that I really suggest others read and why. I just think that reading for pleasure is something that is so easily overlooked and it really is a great way to bond with others. I mean, there are few better feelings than suggesting a book you love to someone who in turn loves that book and then you get to talk about why you both love it!
So, without any further babbling, here is my July reading list!
Alright ladies, listen up!! We all know how much cancer sucks. It takes the people that we love, it ruins lives and families, it’s terrible. And since October is #breastcancerawareness month, we’re going to do just that and raise some awareness!
Now I’ve been lucky enough to have never been affected directly by breast cancer. The women in my family have never had it and no one close to me has either. I also however, have never done a self examination on myself. Ever. As I write this I am embarrassed to admit that at 24 years old I’ve yet to take the time to exam my own body. Well today, all of that changed.
Why is it so difficult for women to accept other women? In a world where we are still not considered equal to men, why must we work so hard against eachother? If you are career minded and can only think of how you can be successful and how hard you need to work to get there then you should not have to defend yourself to the women who are content with staying home, raising children and taking care of their household. However, you should not feel justified in tearing them down either.
For some reason, at some point in time, it became okay for women to attack other women for choosing a lifestyle that is different from theirs. It became a social norm for the stay at home moms and the working women to choose sides and battle it out. Who’s title is more demanding? Who are the harder workers? Who’s job holds more respect?
Why does it have to be one against the other. A real, mature woman should be happy for another woman, regardless of her choice. As long as they are contributing members of society, whether it is from the work they are doing at the office or at the home, then why should they be forced to feel bad about making their choice? Why should they feel the constant need to defend it? If a woman is happiest when she is at work, doing her job and getting things done, then she should be applauded. If a woman is happiest when she is at home, taking care of and nurturing her children, then she should be applauded. Neither one gets to “outrank” the other.
Women can be worse than men when it comes to judging other women. This idea of tearing down other women because they have chosen a different lifestyle than we have chosen for ourselves is quite simply petty and immature. If you are a real woman then you should be able to empower and encourage another real woman, regardless of their lifestyle. Tearing them down for it is the cowards way out.